So… Let’s Talk About Budgeting

Budgeting. Some of you just cringed at the very mention of the “B” word. We hear it and it immediately triggers something inside of us. To so many of us, it represents the loss of freedom. We fear losing our autonomy, of being put in a box, and if we are being honest, it is terrifying to pull back the curtain and call a spade a spade. An unfiltered look at our finances requires us to be vulnerable. Who likes that?


We often associate our financial situation with our overall value. Our finances bleed into every aspect of our lives so if we are “failing” in our finances, we will often feel like failures as human beings.

We need to separate our value from finances, and the easiest way to do this is by taking control and budgeting. Budgeting is not giving up control or freedom but taking control back and creating more freedom in our lives. Being honest with our situation and owning it changes things. You can’t control the world around you, but you can control your mindset, attitude, and, conveniently, your budget.

Now that we want to take back control in our lives, how do we practically do it?

1) Have The End In Mind

We just started this journey, but where does it lead? Ultimately, that is up to you. It can be as simple as I want to pay off debt, or I want to create more margin in my life. It could be I want to stop renting and buy a home. Whatever your goals are, list them. I would suggest categorizing your goals into three categories;

  • Short-term goals are goals that can be achieved in the next three years. These can range from paying off debt to saving for a honeymoon.
  • Medium-term goals are goals that can be achieved in the next three to ten years. Examples are down payment of a home, expanding or starting that business, buying a rental property, etc… 
  • Long-term goals are goals that are ten years or longer which includes retirement and saving for your kid’s college.

Once we have our goals listed, we know what we are working toward and can move to step 2.

2) Fact Find

Once we have our goals mapped out, we need to get everything together in one place to look at them. We need all of our bank accounts, credit cards, debts, investments, and any other financial information organized and easily accessible.

Several financial platforms can help with this task. Our coaching platform, MINT, and EXPENSIFY are a few I would highly recommend taking a look at and exploring.

Once we have all of the information gathered, we need to do something meaningful with that data.

3) Categorize Income & Expenses

Once the fact-finding has been completed, it is time to categorize income and expenses into the following categories.

  • Primary Income — Income from your job that is stable and consistent.
  • Secondary Income — Income that you make not derived from your primary job ex: side hustles
  • Fixed Expenses — Expenses that do not vary month to month and that you have no option but to pay them. Ex: Rent, mortgage, insurance, etc…
  • Flexible Expenses — Expenses that are a necessity but that fluctuate from month to month. Ex: Utilities, groceries, etc… *
  • Fun Expenses — Expenses that can most easily be described as wants.

It is important that in this stage we are not making any adjustments until we have all of this information in front of us and categorized.

* What about seasonal or unexpected expenses? As we all know, life happens, so that’s why we have our budget to prepare for the unexpected. When we budget, we create financial margin so that we can handle those unexpected expenses. So inside the flexible expenses category, I would set a dollar amount for an emergency, you may not always spend it, but it needs to be accounted for in your budget.

4) Design Your Budget

When designing your budget, there are several different methods you can choose. I will talk about two of my favorite methods below. A quick note before we dive into types of budgets, finances are personal so look at these as references for framing a budget that works for you! The ultimate goal of budgeting is to make sure you save so you can achieve your goals. However, you do that is a good thing!

50-30-20 Method

The 50-30-20 method is great for getting started with budgeting without feeling overwhelmed. It is extremely easy to set up and conceptualize. All we are doing is dividing our earned income into three major categories.

The first category is Needs which represents 50% of our budget. The next category is Wants which represents 30% of the budget. Savings represent the remaining 20%. As long as each given category is within its specific threshold (50%, 30%, or 20%) then you are on track with your budget.

Here is an example of the 50-30-20 rule that would apply to an individual with an after-tax income of $4,000 a month.

CategoriesAmount Allocated
Needs$2,000
Wants$1,200
Savings$800

Of course, you can change these numbers to match more of your spending preferences, but this is an excellent rule of thumb and starting point when beginning to budget.

If this method doesn’t get you as much clarity as you want into your finances, the zero-out method might be for you.

Zero-Out Method

This is my favorite budgeting method. Where the 50-30-20 is more of a top-down approach, the zero-out method is a bottom-up approach. This budget does take longer to set up and maintain but I have seen fantastic results from those who stick with this!

Step 1) Deeper Categorization

We already have done a good job of general categorization of our income and expenses, but for the zero-out method, we need a little more detail. We want to know how each dollar that we have earned is being spent. If we are purposeful with our budget, our finances will thank us. Start by defining all of the elements you spend/earn into a list as I have below:

  • Food
  • Health/Medical
  • Housing
  • Personal
  • Pets
  • Utilities
  • Travel
  • Debt
  • Transportation
  • Gift
  • Emergency
  • Bonus
  • Paycheck
  • Investments
  • Side Hustle
  • Savings

Step 2) Subtract your income from your expenses so they equal zero.

It is important to note that I treat investments and savings as expenses for this method. I prefer to focus on my fixed expenses and investments first, and then the remaining balance I use to allocate for everything else. At the end of each month, we want our income minus all of the categories to equal zero. If it is greater than zero, your income is higher than your budgeted expenses. Fantastic!

If it is less than zero, you are spending more than you are making. First things first, if you find yourself in this situation, don’t panic. Budgeting like this takes some time to get used to. The whole point of this type of budgeting is that each dollar has a purpose to it. So when you are succeeding or struggling in a given area, you know exactly where it is you need to focus.

This method can feel daunting to people because it requires a little more work and getting used to than the 50-30-20 method. I find this method, albeit more work, serves to maximize my savings each and every month.

Here is a quick example of a zero-out method budget.

Monthly after Tax Income: $4,000
CategoriesAmount Allocated
Rent$1,200
Utilities$300
Groceries$400
Phone Bill$100
Gas/Car Maintenance$250
Insurance$150
Entertainment$100
Retirement$800
Emergency $100
Loans$225
Clothes$75
Internet$100
Travel Fund$100
MISC$100
Amount Remaining$0.00

5) Take Action

Now that you have created your budget, it is time to start implementing this into your day-to-day life. You will need a way to track the progress of your budget and make sure that the budget is working for you and your lifestyle.

Google Sheets is a great way to track your budget. It has free budget templates, but it does require manual entry and extra diligence to record each transaction manually. Mint is an entirely free option and tracks your expenses and bank account balances, which makes it easy to compare for budgeting purposes. There is also U-VEST which offers financial coaching in tandem with their full financial planning app.

Needless to say, you have options to choose from; just make sure you have a way to execute your budget and a system to track your progress over time.

6) Keep At It

Whatever budget you deploy, make it a habit! Budgeting is one of the most effective ways to increase your financial margin. Yes, it can feel uncomfortable, but change normally is. If you are married, make sure you and your spouse are together on this. Talk about what is important and hold each other accountable. Accountability is critical to making a permanent change.